Undying Love

Love is in the air and more on the screen. This is because online dating has continually dominated the world of information technology.

To date, 40 million American singles are into online dating. That’s about half of the current number of the American singles population based on the reports of the Bureau of Statistics.

However, in spite of the growing number of people who are getting hooked up with online dating, one fact remains the same: Most People are having a hard time finding dates online.

The reason? They just don’t know what to do or even if they know what they are doing, it’s not the right one.

Therefore, for people who wish to know some tips on how to get a date online, here’s how:

1. One’s profile really matters.

People who are into online dating should always keep this in mind: The success of getting a date online centers on a remarkable profile. It’s the sole information that can create such magnificent statements about a certain person.

2. Photos do speak a thousand words

Alongside a good profile, good photographs can do wonders too. Surveys show that almost 95% of people who are searching for somebody to date look at the pictures first. After all, physical attraction is the number concern of dating.

3. Fun! Fun! Fun!

One of the reasons why most people are hooked up with the online dating services today is because they want to have fun. In fact, most people want to hang around with people whom they find funny or are fun to be with.

4. Copycats have no place in online dating sites.

It always pays to be original, even in online dating. Therefore, for a person to be successful in getting a date online, it’s best to maintain originality and individuality.

After all, online dating sites have millions of members and the numbers are continuously growing. Therefore, the probability of getting a date online is pretty much a given if you search correctly.

So, what’s the bottom line? Success of getting a date online is entirely dependent on the person, his or her profile, and the way he or she projects himself or herself on screen.

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Growing up, my father always told me “Son, if you want to be happy you need to be able to treat a woman right”. You’ve got to be able to give her the love she needs and everything else she deserves - her dream house, her dream car, fancy jewelry that makes her feel both pretty and loved. Look at Laura.”

Laura was my step mother. Her brother, younger than her by only a couple of years was the captain of my high school’s varsity football team - when I was a junior.

You could say that everything that I have learned, everything that I have become, was born in that conversation. My mother had passed away when I was young. Id never had much luck with girls my age. And then my dad met Laura.

Laura was beautiful. Young. Happy. She was a dancer. And the way that she looked at my father, I knew that she loved him.

Couple that with the advice he gave me, and I knew what I had to do. I started working harder in school and finished high school at the top of my class. Then it was off to college and then into business. I worked long hours - longer even than those middle management guys who gave me a shot.

A few years ago, I reached a point in my life where others began to call me a success. At thirty-five, I had a great education and was working my way to the top. Now, at forty, Im at the top of my professional game making the kind of money my friends only dream of having.

Of course, they feel that way about Rebecca too. She likes it when I call her Becky - so I do, when we’re alone - but when I start telling people about her and call her Becky many of them roll their eyes.

At first, my friends thought Id lost it - probably because I mentioned that she was twenty two before I talked about anything else. “Mike - what are you thinking,” one of them asked. Another just shook his head, “Buddy, she’s just using you.”

Rebecca′s not like that though. Yes, she is nearly half my age. Yes, she lives with me, rent free, and some nights she still goes out with her friends while I work late. But I trust her. I even believe her when she says she loves me.

That is why I bought her the car. That is why she dresses up for me, wears the jewelry that I buy for her, and why, when we go to dinner she always lets me order for her. She knows that Ill take care of her.

She takes care of me too - even though my friends might not believe it. Some of them still tell me that shes just taking me for granted, that shes taking advantage of my money and success. Some of them still tell me that shell leave.

Others, though, are coming around. My friend Jeff was first. He asked me how I became a Sugar Daddy, I told him about my dad. His advice changed me. It just might change Jeff too.

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Sometimes you have times when you think that you’re having the worst time of your life. Nothing goes well with your boyfriend. He doesn’t understand you, he doesn’t call you as much as he did before. He doesn’t share your enthusiasm while you’re talking to him. He often comes late to your rendez-vous. He even forgets to do the things you have decided to do before. He looks careless, and the worst, a bit bored from the relationship.

Just think for a moment, you may be attracted to him still, but everyone has his/her own ways of living, his/her own goals and ideas about life. Maybe you’ve been boring him with your expectations all the time, anyway. The first thing to do is to look at yourself in the mirror and find out your own faults. Try to respect his ideas, try to think from his point of view and make him realize that you also have your own ways of dealing with these problems. In time, hopefully he may begin to respect you and your ideas, and maybe you can find a way somewhere in the middle.

If you think that your efforts are hopeless, then let him go. May be this is all because that he’s finished with the relationship in his mind, or may be the loving feelings have faden away. You don’t have any time to lose for anyone including him. Although it’s hard to bare a separation sometimes, and it will look like the world has come to an end, you must get through this period with as less damage as possible.

I cannot say: stop thinking about him and probably, you won’t stop thinking about him for a while anyway. Your hand will go to the the phone each and everyday and you may not be able to stop thinking of calling him. You’ll want to hear his voice, especially at the times you feel yourself lonely. That’s perfectly normal but unfortunately it’s a waste of your time from your precious, but short life. So what you must do to get over your past relationships?

Open a brand new page in your life.
Remember all the endings are like a closing door which is opening a new window to your beginnings.
Concentrate on yourself. Never stay at home listening to romantic songs that reminds you of him.
Try not to visit the places that you used to go together.
Get rid of the photos, and delete his number from your mobile. That will help you stay away from the thought of calling him.
Meet new people. Make new friends.
Try to date with new guys frequently, but avoid going out with people that you don’t really like because that will remind you how good you were with your ex.
To find these new dates, try online dating which is easy and effortless for you
Find yourself new hobbies that can keep you occupied and busy.
Devote yourself to your work.
Let the time sweep away those memories and feelings from your heart.

You must know in your life, there’s only one person, you can control, yourself. You cannot control anyone other than yourself and sometimes things happen as it shouldnt happen. Some happenings occur to put us to advantage and sometimes we’ll discover later in our lives. All you have to do is to decide what to do with the time thats given to you. Let go of your life or grab hold of it.

Remember my friend, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. You and only you can change it to your favour.

Cenk Butunley is the founder of MyBestDate, an mybestdate.co.uk Online Dating Service company serving internationally. He has specialized in software engineering since 1998, including three years as a Senior Developer for Bromcom Computers Plc., a software publishing company.

If you want to get the most out of online dating, you have to do more then post a profile and hope for the best. Like everything else in life, if you make a minimal effort, you′ll get minimal results. Since there are millions of guys out there competing for the same women, you have to do something that is both unique and different.

In order to stand out from your competition, you have to go the extra mile and do things they wouldn’t do. In this article, I’ll discuss three ways you can maximize your online dating experience.

1- Find the right online dating service

To be successful at online dating, you need to find the right dating service. Since there are hundreds out there, it’s a matter of locating one which matches your personality and interests. In addition, you have to think about the type of women you could find on these sites

When looking, you should ask yourself:

Do I want to meet a variety of singles, with no particular type in mind?

Am I going for a woman in a certain ethnic or age demographic?

Do want to find someone who matches my religious beliefs and professional needs?

By asking these questions to yourself beforehand, you’ll find it’s a lot easier to find a woman who’ll match yourself. It’s kind of like setting a goal, because once you have a clear idea of what you want, it becomes that much easier to find it.

2- Create a dynamic and interesting profile

By creating an interesting profile and having a good picture of yourself, you’ll get a lot more responses from females. So make sure you take the time to collect the best possible pictures of yourself. Then sit down and think about your best attributes and spend a couple of days creating the most enticing profile imaginable. The more you work at your profile, the more you’ll stand out from other men.

Remember this is the first impression you give to women, so make sure it’s perfect!

3- Search through profiles you find interesting

If you want to be successful at online dating, you have to work hard and search through many profiles that interest you. This means taking a look at your own interests and find women who match them. While looks are important, you should contact women who you find attractive AND interesting.

Once you locate women whom you find interesting, send them emails that are both personalized and interesting. The more you can make her feel special and connected to YOU, the better chance you’ll get a response back.

If you take the time to find the right online dating service, and make your profile stand out, you’ll find yourself with a lot of women to meet and possibly date. Remember that it’s a competitive environment out there. By doing things outside the norm, you’ll get extraordinary results.

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I recently heard a woman say that she would not date a short man. She doesn’t care about how nice he is, educated, godly or anything else – he’s short and that doesn’t work for her. “I’m a tall woman – I need a tall man.” Then I heard another woman say that she would not date a guy who is uneducated. “A guy is not perfect for me if he doesn’t have a college degree.” Then, I read an article by a brother asking, “What’s a brother to do?” He’s tired of showing up at a restaurant requesting a table for one. “My goal this year is to hear Towns, party of two.” According to Mr. Towns, he’s tall – 5’10”, dark – not like Wesley Snipes but close, he has big brown eyes – one on each side of his face – that’s important, he’s articulate, reasonably intelligent, in good health, practices good manners and doesn’t burp, scratch or grab himself in public. I’m not mad at that!

There’s more; he’s romantic, caring, soft-spoken, understanding, compassionate AND passionate, cuddly, sensitive, thoughtful and humble. He thinks that women should be treated with respect, held in high regard, adored, treated like fine crystal, and savored like vintage wine.

Unfortunately, woman #1 would pass him up because he’s short – her man needs to be at least 6 ft. If I were her, I would turn his table of one into a table for two to find out what’s up with him. Why is he single? Why can’t he find a partner? According to he and his friends, his main fault is that he’s a “MAN” – a good man. While women are out and about chasing the bad boy –the man with a little thug in him, men like Mr. Towns are often left by the wayside. “Women often tell me that there are no good men left. Wrong! We are everywhere.” Women like the two mentioned above have a set of rules and expectations for a mate that often have nothing to do with creating a lasting relationship. These same women complain often that all the good ones are gone. Below are a few pointers for women on how to meet available men like Mr. Towns:

Get the ball rolling
Initiate - stop waiting for men to approach you. Smile, wave, say hello – do something to let a man know that you are interested. If a guy took you out and you had a good time, call him to let him know instead of waiting for him to call you. If he has any common sense, he will know that this is an open door for him to ask you out again and not be rejected.

Cast a wider net
How about dating a guy that’s totally different that what you’re used too? Obviously what you’re used to is not working otherwise you wouldn’t be single and singing the blues. Try an older guy or a younger guy, maybe a lighter hue or a darker hue. Take off your artificial height and maybe that 5’10” brother might be all right. Forget about whether he has a degree or not and listen to what he has to say. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing in the same way expecting different results, you are crazy!

Examine & update your list
Ask yourself, “Why will I only date a man with a college degree?” Is that really important to me or is it more important to my family, friends and society? What is it about a shorter man that makes me look the other way? What is it about a blue-collar worker that just isn’t good enough for me? Go over your list with a fine toothcomb. If it’s giving you the results you desire – keep it if not, burn it and start over.

Stop judging a book by its cover
Get to know men before you write them off. Be interested in learning new things about each man you meet. Have conversations with men just because. Forget about romance or developing a relationship. Instead, focus on learning about him. Be interested in his life. Ask questions that will allow him to share his world with you. Give a compliment. Talk about current events. Relax and enjoy listening to what he has to say. Drop your guard. Be open – be available – be easy to talk to.

Ladies, I can’t tell you whom to date or whom not to date – we all have a right to be choosy however if your intention is to create a long-lasting committed relationship with an available man please make sure that your choices are in alignment with your intention otherwise stop complaining about your inability to meet a great man. Then and only then will Mr. Towns hear, “Your table for two is ready!”

Something to think about…

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Why Online Dating can help you find Your Soul Mate

I have a question for you . . .

Do you really want to be happy?

If you had to think about that for even a second I’m sorry but there isn’t any help for you. You should crave happiness like air. It should be something that you feel so strongly about that you’ll do anything, within reason, to get it.

So how can you get this happiness?

Well there is no greater feeling in life than the feeling of true love. Or the first kiss after that perfect first date. These are feelings that us mortals live for - feelings that everyone on this planet should be able to experience. So why shouldn’t you?

Hence the huge growth in Online Dating!

Online dating has for some time had an aura about it that people who get involved in it are “losers” who couldn’t get themselves a date in the “real world”. Which is nonsense.

Many people just haven’t the time due to work commitments to find that elusive partner. Others find the initial approach too hard therefore an email is a lot easier. Whilst some just love the buzz of excitement when an email from a potential soul mate comes through.

Whichever category you fall in, be it one of the above or another, you are not a loser. The truth is this:

A survey showed that 83% of the people who thought that online dating was ‘sad’ were single.

The Internet has become the ultimate haven for singles – without the drunks, the noise, and the exorbitant cost you pay to be in the bars desperately hoping to be noticed.

Thanks to online dating sites, you don’t have to ask your mother or friend to help you hook up with someone they think is perfect for you – which in most cases, isn’t.

So here are a few tips to help you along the way:

Guy’s believe it or not you are ten times more likely to find a partner if you DON’T search for someone rather than if you do.

And ladies you are much more likely to find a partner if you search for one.

Include a recent photo – a no-brainer you would think, but so many put up old photos or worse, one of someone else!

Guys – include an ‘aaahh’ photo, one that makes the ladies go gooey. Your niece or nephew on your lap or the neighbour’s puppy. Trust me it will work.

Spend time on the headline of your advert. Make it intriguing, challenging and most of all, relevant to your photo.

Now there is obviously more to it than just the above, but these are the initial concepts to concentrate on and if you want to understand more about not just where you’ve been going wrong, but also more about the psychology of the opposite sex when it comes to online dating visit datingpartner.net www.datingpartner.net.

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Loneliness is a bane of the modern society. It is stressful and can induce disease. The reason is man is a gregarious animal and has been living in groups or pair since the prehistoric times. That loneliness is a phenomenon of the modern era is quite true. Not that people were not lonely in olden days, but then the societal norms where tight, the institution of marriage was rife with popularity, and anyway the split was not easy. The reason economic dependency childcare and safe haven that a woman needed from her husband, hence divorce was a male prerogative.

But today like men, women are severely independent and with a strong opinionated mind, that defines ones sensitivities. Hence, matching with the right man has become a daunting task for most single woman. Like wise making a perfect match for single men has become challenging too.

The online singles personals on dating site on Internet are full of singles dating women and men seeking relationship for romance, love or marriage. There are thousands of ads of singles who are there after a split due to lack of compatibility and what not. Therefore, you have photo personals ads of single mum or parent seeking a new relationship with someone whom they would eventually find marital bliss or a long term relationship.

In a fast paced modern society singles have no time for anything but professional pursuits. A business man or a professional woman has no time for visiting a dating agency or a marriage bureau on land. As it is, the reach of a land based dating agency is severely restricted to a local area.

Hence, online dating sites or online match dating services are the only means for single men or single women to find a compatible match. In an adult dating site, there is always an option for single dating with singles personals interested in matchmaking.

The online dating sites on Internet are fast and effective in delivery and their matchmaker delivers weekly matches right on your personal computer via email messaging. You need not visit the online matchmaking service, just open your mail, check for a perfect match, and then proceed further if things work out fine. If you browse adult personals ads on the dating site then you have thousands of singles profiles form all over for you to seek a match from anywhere. Browse the personals ads carefully and then if someone is suitable then proceed with a wink or send a message and wait for a response.

The matchmaking or relationship building process can be taken further through live web cams, online chat and of course through emails for anonymity, initially. Far outstanding then land based dating agency the Internet dating sites offer great ease and comfort as a date finder. Therefore the popularity of online dating services is growing day by day.

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One of the biggest causes of breakdowns in relationships is simple neglect of a partner once children appear on the scene. No attention, no affection and, worst of all, no sex, as spouses become lost in the routine and minutiae of child rearing, forgetting how those children came about in the first place! This unwitting form of rejection, especially in the early years of marriage, is perpetuated in many homes and often sets the seal for trouble ahead.

New additions to families have the knack of grabbing all the attention. Daily, many mums strive to accommodate this sudden, pervasive and persistent demand on their time, often in an unnecessarily guarded and protective manner, that gradually excludes their spouses. Invariably, it is men who lose out at this time. Some do not take such exclusion lightly, often feeling jealous of the new rival, but not quite sure how to react in these sensitive and uncharted waters. When the demands of the child constantly interfere with the normal togetherness and intimacy the couple enjoys, it is difficult to maintain a positive, romantic or even sympathetic perspective. Inexperienced, anxious mothers are primarily concerned about their new and vulnerable charges, while excluded fathers are reduced to the role of helpless bystanders, often withdrawing emotionally from the situation while constantly fretting on the quiet. It won’t be long before they look elsewhere for comfort and affirmation, judging by the disproportionate number of divorces which involve young children under five.

Two individuals trying to live harmoniously together is no easy feat and sometimes we unwittingly set a train of action into motion, blissfully unaware of the consequences until it flattens us to a pulp. Like this routine looking scene in my local park one Sunday, masking many anxieties. On this cold day, life forms were sparse and activity slight. However, running noisily around a park bench was an animated group of children, with a male and female guardian in their thirties. No fewer than four very lively youngsters buzzed around the woman, competing with one another for her attention. Seemingly concerned, she sat very still, holding on tightly to the youngest child, cradling his head against her warm body as if she could not bear to let him go. With her head bowed in a sort of reverie, she seemed oblivious to the merrymaking and intermittent noise around her, and was equally oblivious to someone else standing in front of her.

Signs of Frustration

A man of similar age, rather windswept and miserable, looked down at her longingly. Sporadically, he looked away at the people around him and back to his companion in a cycle of futile expectation. Her lack of response unnerved him. He seemed trapped by the situation, in which he was expected to give attention to children wrapped up in their own game while feeling decidedly excluded himself. Perhaps he was her lover, or her husband. Either way, these simple signs of frustration pointed to a relationship heading for trouble.

The haunting look in his eyes as he tried to appear nonchalant, when he clearly wanted her attention, and perhaps a cuddle too, was not difficult to see. He scoured the park for similar situations; for the reassurance that – as a man – he was in the right place at the right time doing the right thing. But the reassurance was not forthcoming and the look of bewilderment on his face betrayed not only a desperate kind of wonder at what he could do next, but also his increasingly obvious feeling of being unwanted and on the periphery. The young toddler might have required attention at that precise moment, but the woman was so focused entirely on his needs, everything else appeared to be in suspended animation. That scene has been indelibly etched on my mind.

With children in tow, this couple is likely to be married. And, with this type of relationship providing the most up-to-date statistics on living together, it is easy to see the downward trends in the length of marriages once children are on the scene. Love is universal in its effects and emotions are always predictable – be they personal, individual, peculiar or particular. So, any two committed people sharing the same space can expect a repeat of what happens to many other couples, especially with new additions to the family. The advent of children, even as a welcome third party, could spell doom for most couple’s relationships unless they are strong, knowledgeable and mature enough to deal with the new situation sensibly. Often this is not the case, as no one has prior training for such sensitive times. The results can then be seen in the courts.

ELAINE SIHERA (Ms Cyprah -www.ecademy.com/user/elainesihera and myspace.com/elaineone myspace.com/elaineone) is an expert author, public speaker, media contributor and lifestyle columnist. The first Black graduate of the OU and a post-graduate of Cambridge University. Elaine is a CONFIDENCE guru and a Personal Empowerment, Relationships and Diversity Consultant. Author of: 10 Easy Steps to Growing Older Disgracefully; 10 Easy Steps to Finding Your Ideal Soulmate!; Money, Sex & Compromise and Managing the Diversity Maze, among others (available on amazon.co.uk amazon.co.uk as well as her personal website). Also the founder of the British Diversity Awards and the Windrush Men and Women of the Year Achievement Awards. She describes herself as, “Fit, Fabulous, Over-fifty and Ready to Fly!”

Planning a wedding can be stressful and very time consuming project. Hiring wedding coordinators can also allow the soon-to-be bride and groom with a lot of free time to plan the rest of their lives together.

The bride and groom should both meet with the wedding coordinator so that he/she can get to know you as a couple and speak with you about your wishes for the big day. Coordinators will often convey their ideas during the first meeting and they may also go over a few pricing plans. The most important thing to keep in mind is to spend within your means. It’s tempting to go overboard and order the biggest cake, the prettiest flowers and forget all about the price. But, after the wedding is over and the cake is gone, the bills will still be there. So, set a budget and speak with the coordinator about your guidelines. Let them know that you already have an amount that you wish to spend and ask if he/she can put together a nice, memorable wedding ceremony according to your budget.

Wedding coordinators take care of every detail, including booking the location, catering, ordering the wedding cake, designing and ordering the invitations, ordering and arranging flowers, seating guests, etc. After hiring a wedding coordinator, the only thing that is really required of the bride and groom are to get their tuxedo and gown and arrive on time, ready to say “I do.” It’s important to enjoy being engaged rather than spending that time combing through thousands of details and trying to make sure everything is handled properly.

A wedding should be about the bride and groom, their own personal taste and wishes. Coordinators need to know what you want for the big day so that they can make it happen in a way that will be memorable for both of you. A wedding should be a personal event that reflects upon both individuals. If she likes romance, perhaps a Valentine’s Day wedding is in order. If he likes sports, perhaps the marriage proposal was made at a sports arena and the reception somehow incorporates his love of athletics. Discuss individual interests with each other before relaying them to the coordinator. Put your heads together and come up with something that you both will enjoy.

Of course, hiring a coordinator does not mean that the bride and groom will be closed off from the decision making process. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Both individuals will be very much involved in the selection of flowers, the design and wording of invitations, the design of the wedding cake, the location and time of the wedding, etc. The main difference being that, with the help of wedding coordinators, the bride and groom only make the decisions and do not have to worry themselves with finalizing all of the details. There will be plenty of decisions that need making in the years ahead, so it’s ok to just enjoy each other for now.

Cynthia has 11 years of experience as a published writer. At age 28, her work has already appeared in many national magazines. Her subjects range from wedding content to celebrity interviews. In 1997, Cynthia earned her paralegal degree while maintaining a writing career.

Are you a Rabbit Girl?
Or, for the guys our subtitle is “Is your girl a Rabbit type of girl?”
By Chrystal Bougon
www.BlissPartiesInc.com

December 30, 2006

Aaaaah, the age old question ……to Rabbit or Not to Rabbit? And if you do “rabbit” which style of Rabbit is right for you?

At our Bliss Pleasure Parties, www.BlissPartiesInc.com we sell various styles of “rabbit” type toys. And, just to clarify what a “rabbit” type toy is, we define it as any Adult Sex Toy which gives more then one type of stimulation simultaneously – typically vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation.

In this industry, we are flush with Rabbits thanks to, in my opinion, that infamous “Sex & The City” episode where “Charlotte” became addicted to her “Rabbit Pearl.” That episode ran for the first time in August 1998. In the last 8 or 9 years pretty much everyone in the adult toy industry has tried to duplicate Vibratex’TM super quiet, artfully crafted and atomically charged Pearl Rabbit that was so perfectly placed in that “Sex & The City episode.” Talk about your product placement coup!

Good for VibratexTM and good for consumers, right? Maybe is my short answer. Choices are great, but they do come with some confusion for the regular girl or guy shopping for sex toys.

I have been selling rabbit style toys for over 4 years now at our home parties, online and at the local boutique that I co-owned. I have personally owned several rabbit style toys and bought my first rabbit toy called the “Lobo” or “Wolfie” about 12 years ago at a home sex toy party (hosted by my good friend Stacy). I am now what you might call a Sexpert on the subject of these types of toys.

Here are some of the myths and questions that I am frequently asked about when customers want to know which of the rabbit style toys is right for them. Some of them may sound a little crude or silly, but they are REAL questions from REAL people:

1.W: Once I own a rabbit, will my husband or boyfriend still be able to please me?
2.W: Will my husband or boyfriend feel like he is being replaced?
3.M: If I buy this toy for my wife/girlfriend will I still be able to please her?
4.M: Will my wife/girlfriend be “stretched” vaginally by this toy?
5.W: Can this toy electrocute me and burn me or hurt me in some way?
6.W: Will I still be able to have an orgasm without this toy?
7.M: Do you have one that does not have any wires or cords?
8.M: Doesn’t that hurt?

The short answer is: Yes, No, Yes, No, No, Yes, Yes, and HELL NO!

(The questions with the “w” were from women and the one’s with the “m” were from men.)

So, now you’re asking yourself, how do I decide which multi functional rabbit type toy is right for you. Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I plan to use the toy more often alone or with a partner?
If you answered alone, you may prefer the types of toys that have a battery pack and a wire so you can keep the controller near you where you can adjust the speeds and other functionality more easily. (Suggestion: Original Rabbit Pearl or the Jack Rabbit) If you plan to use it more often with someone else, you may prefer to go the wireless route. (Suggestion: The Rabbit Habit, The Pearl Thunder or the Krystal Wabbit)

2. Do I prefer more direct and constant clitoral stimulation or do I prefer a more light, fluttering type of clitoral stimulation?
Remember that we’re all uniquely different. And while 90% of women have 95% of their orgasms through clitoral stimulation, we all get there in our own unique ways. If you prefer more direct and constant clitoral stimulation look for a toy which has a harder material or a more solid cut in the clitoral stimulator. (Suggestion: The Rabbit Habit, Pearl Thunder, Rainbow Blue, Rock My World.) If you prefer the lighter, more fluttering effect then choose stimulators with softer materials and one’s that have two softer rabbit “ears” as opposed to one more direct “ear”. (Suggestion: Original Rabbit Pearl, and The Jack Rabbit)

3. Do I prefer girth, length or both?
Many women prefer girth to length. I said many, not all. My theory for why women prefer girth is due the concentration of nerve endings that are situated at the opening and bottom third of the vagina. With girth, we feel more at the opening and at the bottom third because the thickness is touching and stimulating all of those nerve endings. (Suggestion for girth: Pearl Thunder or Krystal Wabbit.) The top two thirds of the vagina have very few nerve endings and there is not a lot of sensation up at the top, closer to our cervix. However, some girls like longer toys – more than 5” insertable. Many women find anything over 5” insertable a bit uncomfortable. (Suggestion for average to longer toys: Eager Beaver, Original Pearl Rabbit, Jack Rabbit, and Rabbit Habit.)

4. Will I find the rotation of the beads or pearls distracting or pleasurable?
This is a critical decision point for many women and especially for men trying to buy these toys for their female partners. What I most often tell customers is that if you’re the type of girl who has to think about your orgasm and have to spend some energy getting your brain to catch up with your body, you may prefer the toys without the rotating pearls or beads. (NOTE: almost all of the toys with the rotation function allow you to turn that part off if you find you don’t like it.)

Some women have told me that the rotation distracts them and that slows down their ability to have an orgasm. Now, if you’re a girl that does not have to think about your orgasm much, you will more then likely find that third sensation of the rotating beads or pearls highly pleasurable and it will enhance your orgasm. (Suggestions: Eager Beaver or Osaki Beaver have no beads or pearls, but still give you the penetration and the clitoral vibration. Most of the other toys mentioned in this article have some type of beads or pearls for that third type of stimulation.)

5. Will I be using this toy in the bedroom or in the shower/bathtub/hottub?
Many women, especially women with children, rarely get any privacy at all for a hot date with their rabbit toys. For some women, the only little bit of peace and quiet they get is when they lock the bathroom door for their daily shower or bath. If you need a waterproof toy or just like the idea of a dildo that can be used in the shower or hot tub, check out the waterproof toys. (Suggestion: The Duke is 100% waterproof but can be used in the bed or bath. Same with the Water Dancer Pocket Rocket by VibratexTM.)
Ladies, if you’re concerned about your husband or boyfriend feeling replaced by a toy, here’s what we suggest. First of all, let your partner know that nothing could ever replace him. We like to think of our toys as a great appetizer that is leading up to a fabulous and orgasmic entrée – HIM! Once most men figure out that the more fun you have, the more fun they have – they will fully embrace your toys. (Keep in mind that men are super visual and many men love using their toys with their partners.)

Speaking for most of my friends, relatives and the random women I have met through years of putting on Pleasure Party presentations and talking to them at my boutique, a toy has never made them less sensitive to an orgasm. For many women, toys actually help them to become more orgasmic and more sensitive – in some cases toys can even train and help women to become multi orgasmic. And, NO, a toy will not stretch you out( If you’re reallu concerned, double up on your kegel exercises! If you’ve been to any of my pleasure parties you know I am a big proponent of doing your kegels and not using those tightener creams. Ladies! The more often you do your kegels, the more intense your orgasm.)

So throw out all of those old wives tales about Sex Toys. Do your research and find the toy that is right for you. Don’t let someone SELL you a toy. Ask them to EDUCATE you about the toys that they sell and let them help you to find the one that is exactly right for you and your body. That is the approach we take at all of our Home Pleasure Parties. Let us come to your home and educate you and your friends about our products and with any luck, we have something that fits your needs. One Size Does Not Fit All in this industry!

If you’re ready to book your own Bliss Pleasure Party and you’re in the Silicon Valley area, call us today at 1-866-200-9475 or 408-826-9087. You can also email me with your comments or questions about this article at Blissconnection@Gmail.com. Happy Bunny Trails, Chrystal

Chrystal Bougon is the owner of BlissPartiesInc.com BlissPartiesInc.com and BlissConnection.com BlissConnection.com and has 4 years experience with Home Pleasure Parties and 2.5 years running an Adult Romance Boutique.