Undying Love

Most of us are pretty good at recognizing unhealthy behaviors in other relationships, but when it comes to our own, we might not be the same sleuth. While denial and dissociation are creative ways to cope with emotional abuse, these protective mechanisms can also foil red flags waving for your protection.

We can say that any form of disrespect, betrayal, or violence is unacceptable, but where do we draw the line between behaviors that reflect having a bad day versus having a serious problem? A classic verse about love provides insight:

“Love is patient: love is kind. It does not envy: it does not boast: it is not proud. It is not rude: it is not self-seeking: it is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs.”
I Corinthians 13:4
Modern translation: the same thing.

Everything that happens in your household impacts the psychological welfare and life energy of you and your children. It is crucial therefore that you recognize damaging behaviors in order to address the source of the problem. Some examples include:

1. Intimidation
2. False accusations
3. Blaming you for everything
4. Degradation and humiliation, privately or in public
5. Lying, breaking promises, or destroying your trust
6. Threats of harm to you, your children, or your pets
7. Physical and social isolation from family and friends
8. Driving fast and recklessly to frighten and intimidate you
9. Calling you names and constantly criticizing, insulting, and belittling
10. Extreme jealousy and possessiveness, including an attitude of “ownership”
11. Use of alcohol, chemical, or other substances as a barrier to your intimacy
12. Ignoring, dismissing or ridiculing your physical, emotional, or sexual needs

Is anything familiar? If so, your family’s emotional welfare is at stake.

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Far too much game-playing goes on in the seduction world, and many men (and woman) are quickly discovering that generic tricks and routines to lure the opposite sex don’t’ bring any real gratification other than the occasional mechanical bonk.

But did you know that people in other parts of the word do things differently. The greatest seducers are not so much revered for technical excellence, but for the character they put into the game. The seducer is not bound to a schematic designed plan but instead intention and distinctiveness precedes every move. Intention and distinctiveness allows the seducer to be open minded, take it all in and put him or herself in the position of really living the seduction experience and not just performing it.

A more profound dance of seduction comes into being or existence, and it becomes more than just seducer seducing seducee, it becomes something that generates mutual, tension, suspense, arousal, pleasure… This something whatever you want to call it (chemistry, attraction, love) adds reciprocity to the game, and takes it beyond playing against to playing together, which is the true meaning of the art of seduction.

As in life, distinctiveness in seduction is the starting point. Adding your own distinctiveness, your own unique personal style, your own passion and your own spirit to the experience can set you apart in an irresistibly attractive manner

The following are a few ideas for extending the “ordinary” to “extra-ordinary” - and that I warmly recommend.

1. You must first get in touch with your own innate seductiveness and allow yourself to be seduced by your own self in order to be able to seduce another person. If you take time to know what you are feeling when you are seducing a man or woman that is “How you feel about yourself when you’re with a particular person,” NOT “How you feel about him or her?” your seduction will be smoother and more memorable.

2. Elicit complex combinations of emotions and thoughts that allow the person to undergo an emotional change associated with the experience – he or she will always associate the intense emotion with you.

3. Make him or her feel special by making the experience different from anything he or she has ever known - and you will charm him/her for hours.

4. Stretch out the moment - even if you know where you want to go, don’t rush the moment. Always keep in mind that present moment hovers between becoming the past and progressing into the future.

You may be holding back what the opposite sex really want and find irresistible. Your unique individual energy (anything from having unusual ideas, tone of voice, way of looking, way of walking, way of talking, how you eat, how you move your body in dance etc-) can become powerfully seductive if you can add your own distinctiveness, your own unique personal style and extend it beyond “ordinary” to “extra-ordinary”!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today’s dating dynamics.

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My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have been down some rocky roads. The first ten years were all about him and all about me. We lived selfish lives, each wanting our own way. We loved each other, just loved ourselves more.

We were in competition, but we did not know it. It takes years to look back and see clearly the error of our ways. Keeping love and romance alive is a friend that doesn′t reveal itself during the first few months or even years of a marriage.

The next ten years were a time of transition. I call it our time of Rock n’ Roll. There were rocks along the way, but we began to learn how to roll with them. The first clue came when we to learned to laugh.

Too much drama and seriousness can kill a marriage. Lighten up, life should be fun. You should be having the time of your life. The most fun should not be in the chase, but in the catch. Keeping love and romance alive is learning to find the art of humor in everyday life. Have you ever noticed that if you smile you cannot stay mad? It’s an anger buster!

The last 14 years have had a few pebbles along the way. However, we learned that we were partners not competitors. We are both on the same team. We learned the value of being childlike, not childish. What a difference. We learned how to be friends.

Keeping love and romance alive is learning to become like children. Children are teachable, forgiving, and they don’t hold grudges. Children have many spats, but they forget about it in just a few minutes and the fun starts all over again!

That is the secret to a happy long lasting marriage. Keep the fun alive. Life is too short to be unhappy. It’s simple and it will work for you if you will put it into practice. No, it is not easy but it is worth it. Keeping love and romance alive in your life is the key that unlocks the fountain of youth. Try it, you will like it!

Besides

Successful romantic relationships are the same as successful business relationships. On a foundation of compatibility, trust, responsibility, and shared equity, partners merge talents and resources to do together what they cannot do individually.

Let’s say I am passionate about the ocean, and my life mission is to build underwater habitats that I designed. My wife shares my passion for the ocean, has the same life mission, and has invented technology perfect for those habitats.

Attracted initially by chemistry and compatibility, we merged her technology with my designs to build our habitats. A covenant we made with each other to balance our personal needs with the needs of our mission, without succumbing to trivial desires or emotional impulse, forms the foundation of our relationship.

Commit To A Higher Purpose, Not Each Other

The character and integrity that forms the foundation of successful business relationships is the same as that which forms the foundation of successful romantic relationships. Because the “business” partners are also romantic partners, people in mission-centered relationships should have an easier time living and working together, and get more satisfaction from the experience.

Conversely, when people commit only to each other, each expects the other to be his or her sole source of happiness and fulfillment. Worse, each person may actually believe that he or she can be the other’s sole source of happiness and fulfillment. The frustrating awareness that those expectations are impossible to fulfill often manifests as withdrawal and neglect in one extreme, or nagging and accusation on another. Then, as each partner demands more attention be given to their needs, the roots of selfishness begin to penetrate and crumble the foundation of their relationship, causing what they have built to collapse — or preventing anything from being built at all.

In a selfless, mission-focused relationship, this is less likely to occur because much of their happiness and fulfillment comes from the successful pursuit of their shared passion. More, however, may actually come from the pride and satisfaction they feel, and the personal growth they have achieved, from living up to the very high standards they set for themselves.

Ironically, forming a selfless relationship requires very selfish due diligence. Measuring a potential romantic partner’s character and integrity is not an adrenal process. Cuteness and chemistry are not the sole requirements. Careful, objective observation of the person’s behavior is essential to making intelligent choices.

Whenever you meet someone attractive and willing, there is one question you need answered before forming a relationship:

“What’s In It For Me?”

The answer to this question will reveal how they perceive and value themselves and, more important, how they perceive and value you. The tone of their delivery will reveal the demeanor that will permeate every aspect of your relationship.

Stammering uncertainty leading eventually to an accounting of the person’s physical and material attributes delivered in haughty, “how dare you ask” tone will tell you one thing. An effortless expression of how he or she can enhance your life and that of others, delivered in a calm, “glad you asked” tone will tell you another. Take the answer at face value, and accept it for what it is.

Approaching romance from a business perspective is both intelligent and practical. Clearly defined structure and rules enhance romance. Lack thereof exacerbates it.

Just consider what happens when people divorce; it all gets boiled down to rights and property.

Business.

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Ever since Queen Victoria wed in 1840, however, white has remained the traditional color for wedding gowns and bouquets. A woman then used her dress for Court Presentation after marriage, usually with a different bodice. It has been accepted taditional color of the wedding dress, but wedding gowns were not always white. The marriage of Queen Victoria to her cousin Albert of Saxe- Coburg in 1840 has had more influence on weddings than any other. Queen Victoria put the wheels in motion by marrying in white.

Though brides continued to wed in gowns of different colors, white was now set as the color of choice for weddings and has continued ever since. In Godey’s Lady’s Book, 1849, this statement was printed: “ Custom has decided, from the earliest ages, that white is the most fitting hue, whatever may be the material. It is an emblem of the purity and innocence of girlhood, and the unsullied heart she now yields to the chosen one.”
There is an old poem about how the color of your wedding dress will influence your future: “Married in white, you will have chosen all right. Married in grey , you will go far away. Married in black, you will wish yourself back. Married in red, you will wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in pearl, you will live in a whirl. Married in green, ashamed to be seen, Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow. Married in brown, you will live out of town. Married in pink, your spirits will sink.”

White is still the top favorite for wedding gowns.www.ebridals.com has an exclusive range of bridal gown in classic white color. Which have the’’sublime’’quality designed by couture designer Andy anand who believes that ‘’less is more’’, these bridal gowns are made like a ‘’piece of art’’ they are very light white and other shades of white color has been used to give it the classic touch yet they are modern.

Wedding gowns have not always been elaborate, as many are today. In the eighteenth century, poor brides dressed in simple robes. This symbolized to her future husband that she brought nothing with her into the marriage and would therefore not burden him with any debt. It wasn′t until the mid nineteenth century that the all-white wedding dress became fashionable. Up until then a bride simply wore her best dress, regardless of its color. In 1840, Queen Victoria’s pure white gown started the trend that many women follow today.

How can we love ourselves and others when we are unhappy, depressed, resentful, lonely, addicted, or when we have past issues that haunt us, or when we have a low self worth? How do we break free from the past and start living for the here and now?

What we really need to do is address what is holding us back from loving ourselves and loving others. Why are we unhappy, depressed or lonely? Why are we addicted to drugs, sex, or alcohol? Why are we allowing our feelings to control the person inside us? Why do we have a low self-image?

Past issues can literally haunt us and steer us further away from God’s loving arms where we truly belong. These issues take hold of our minds and tell us it’s okay to feel a certain way. For instance, if you were sexually abused as a child, your mind might constantly tell you not to trust men. Or if you were brought up in an alcoholic home environment, you may abuse alcohol yourself. These kinds of past issues will keep us from loving the person we are, which in turn will keep us from being able to fully love others as well. So what can we do?

We can put our total trust and faith in our Creator and let Him free us from our heavy burdens. It’s really that simple, but yet, the most difficult aspect is humbling ourselves enough to allow God to actually go to work in our lives. We don’t need addiction and pride to keep us from loving the person we are. These things are like crutches that only ease the pain for a little while. God already knows what is holding each and everyone of us back from loving. All we have to do is let Him know we are ready for Him to transform us.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matthew 11:28,29 NIV)

What we really need is to have total belief that what Jesus says for us is true. We need to have faith enough to know that when Jesus says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened,” that he is inviting us into His life so we can finally experience healing and peace for ourselves. Then we can begin living a new fruitful life in God and for God, instead of for ourselves. This means we might need to make some changes in the way we are living now if we want to heal our past and learn to love the way God wants us to love.

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. (Hebrews 11:6 NIV)

God continually assures us that those who honestly seek Him will be rewarded. Rewarded with what? Rewarded, not only with eternal life in all of its magnificent bliss, but in this life we are now living! Isn’t that wonderful news? I encourage all of you who have heavy burdens you are carrying now to strip them away from your hearts and minds and begin acting on your faith and knowledge of God. Love yourselves so you can love others the way God intended for you to love.

Jesus said, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34-35 NIV)

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Dating has never been an easy thing to do. It is one of the most complex things in life, just preceding being in a relationship. First thing is that you would need to find a date, which could be tougher for the socially challenged people. Then comes the date itself, where one would need to act his or her best and figure out how things will click and wonder if there will be a 2nd date. After a periodic time of dating, more problems and relationships could then arise that could eventually bring in regrets. Here are some most common regrets and disasters that daters often experience.

1. Dating people for the very wrong reasons always result in disasters. There might be some that could pull it off but it could be rare. Some people date for reasons of that person being physically attractive, business reasons, business contracts, sex or even just out of sympathy. We instead should date people who we seem to like because of their great personality or that being a match for us. A friend of mine tried to date a Muslim because she was pretty attractive, eventually things didn’t work out because of cultural differences. If you know that you are entering a dating situation where things will really not work out, don’t waste your time on it. There could be others out there while you’re wasting your time on the wrong person.

2. In our current society most 20 something people will put career ahead of their love life. This is not a bad thing though. But once you hit your 30’s you will seem to lose something within you. You will become less attractive because of aging signs. Our body clocks will eventually catch up on us. Also most good catches will be fewer. Try to balance out your career and social life. Having a love life doesn’t mean you need to get married and sacrifice your career. It might even inspire you to work harder. It’s just how you view the situation.

3. Stupid regrets here, people leave the person they love. Don’t know why. If you love the person why leave him or her? Often reasons for a person leaving his or her partner are due to infidelity. If things do eventually go broke it might be too late to go back. I mean if you love the person why be unfaithful? It might be tempting but it’s only a test of your relationship. Bottom-line, be faithful.

4. Don’t be jackass in your relationship. People often regret that they could have been nicer to their partner. It will always haunt you when you treat your partner badly. How could our relationship have ended if I was nicer? Try to be courteous, remembering special dates (no matter how cheesy they are), kind, compromising, getting something special, being spontaneous. Don’t be too late to change, because you might regret it.

5. Don’t be callous when dumping a person. It definitely hurts and karma has a way of finding you.

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Attracting one’s soul mate is a preoccupation many people are struggling with. In the world of dating and researching for the perfect mate, it seams to get harder and harder to find that special person who will make us complete. The commerce of online dating has been flourishing in the past decade but we can wonder if the overall rate of successful matching has been improved.

Attracting one soul’s mate is a wish every human being holds deeply. Going through life without being able to experience true and fulfilling love is a fear most people have. How does one attract and keeps their soul mate? Is going from bars to bars at night a valuable way of meeting the ideal mate? Is spending numerous hours on the internet going through endless profiles a sure way to meet the right person?

People often feel like they are stuck in attracting persons that are not right for them. Rejection and disappointments are common problems people in desperate search of their soul mate are facing. When a person faces failed unions after failed unions, it is legitimate to ask why she is not attracting the ideal person, a person who would fulfill her basic needs of acknowledgement and love.

Why are people experiencing repeated rejections and disappointments when looking for their soul mate? How can a person avoid going through all those negative experiences while looking for her soul mate?

There are two basic conditions to attract the ideal mate: knowing what you want and need and not settling for less. Satisfying those two conditions will ensure that a person will not go through so many disappointing relationships before attracting her soul mate.

It is of primary importance when looking for a soul mate to know a person’s own needs and desires. It gets almost impossible to have a relationship work if the two people involved do not share basic common grounds. Often, by knowing herself well, a person is more capable of defining what she is looking for in her soul mate. A person has to feel complete and happy before starting the search for her perfect mate. Looking for a person that will make us happy, rich and fulfilled is just destined for failure.

A very simple and efficient way to determine what our soul mate’s essential qualities have to be is to write down a list. It is obvious that no one will fit all the items on the list and we should show a little flexibility for minor things that do not fit our ideal mate. On the other hand, compromising on essential factors such as faithfulness or life goals is due for failure. It would be like walking out of the shoe store with a pair of shoes you feel in love with but that the store only had in a pair two sizes too small. After walking a short period of time in them, the pain would be too overwhelming.

The other essential ingredient a person needs when attracting her soul mate is self-love. It is only by truly loving herself, that a person will be able to radiate confidence and love that will attract her soul mate. Then, the only step left is to go out there and attract her perfect mate.

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There was this woman I dated months ago, whom I was unable to arouse in the bedroom. She was very attracted to me and we had made it that far, but for some reason my usual physical affection (kissing, sexual touching, etc.) wasn’t arousing her sexually. She even told me so. But instead of taking it personally and giving up I decided to ask her about her past lovers and what the sex was like with them.

She told me that with her last lover she wanted sex more than he did, and couldn′t get enough. She initiated sex with him most of the time.

I concluded that she responds to a form of hard-to-get. I never directly asked what turns her on since most likely she would say she doesn’t know. So instead, I indirectly gathered information which would be very useful to me.

So with this new knowledge I got dressed and suggested we go watch a movie. But I stayed lied down on the bed, with my arms crossed behind my head, staring at the ceiling. I no longer made any moves. I didn′t even talk.

Sensing my complacency, she soon after moved closer to me, and started kissing me and touching me sexually, getting herself turned on in the process. The clothes then came off and we had sex.

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There are a number of things that need to be done in order to make a wedding come together smoothly. The first thing that guests will see in terms of your wedding is the invitation. When they view the wedding invitation, they will quickly get an idea as to the formality of the wedding and the theme of the wedding. This is why it is so important that your wedding invitation paper corresponds well with the wedding itself.

The first step in choosing the right paper is to be aware of how formal or informal your wedding is going to be. By choosing a very formal looking paper when you are having a very informal wedding, guests will be thrown off and their attire may not be appropriate. So try to make the formality of the invitation paper match the formality of the wedding itself.

The next step in picking the perfect paper is to match the style of the paper to the style of the wedding. For example, the colors and design at my ceremony and reception all matched my wedding dress. So in the same way I made sure that the wedding invitation paper also had a similar color scheme and design as my dress. That way before the guests even realize it, they are getting a glimpse of what the wedding will be like.

The last big thing to keep in mind when selecting your paper is the theme of the wedding. For example, my sister had a country and western theme at her wedding, so she chose wedding invitation paper that would indicate that by the design. There are a number of different styles to choose from when it comes to finding wedding invitation paper. This makes it easy to find something that will fit well with your wedding theme.

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