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Do you think that there is just no one out there for you? The latest census in the U.S. puts the number of singles at 110 million. But if you feel hopeless about your situation, when you hear that statistic, a little voice in your head might be heard to say…”Yeah, but they don’t live here in my town.”

There are seven warning signs that tell you if you will be successful in meeting someone. In fact, this is how you spell W.A.R.N.I.N.G.:

* W is for Waiting.

Waiting for Mr. Right to knock on your door and sweep you away to a new life, or going to a party and waiting for Miss or Mr. Wonderful to find you, while you stand there mute and detached, will just keep you waiting. No one is going to find you. You have to find yourself, and then determine what you want. Turn that W for waiting into a W for Will Not give Up, and you become very attractive.

* A is for Assumptions

As a single, it is easy to make assumptions. You may assume that your friends and coworkers know that you want to meet someone since you have been alone for a long time. You may assume that if they knew someone they would introduce you. False. You have to ask people to introduce you. And when they forget, ask again, nicely. People get busy with their lives and need to be reminded. Some people won’t know anyone…but sooner or later, if you tell enough people, someone will know someone.

* R is for Running away.

If you do not have the life you love, you may be trying to run away by finding someone to take care of you, ease your burdens, and make you happy. This is a big sign that you will not find the person of your dreams, but rather, someone else who wants to be taken care of. (Like attracts like.) Instead of searching for the ideal person to make you happy, become the person you are looking for, make yourself happy, and notice how attractive you become to everyone.

* N stands for “No,” as in saying no to what doesn’t work for you.

The word no keeps activities, people, and places that are toxic to you out of your world. When you say no to what is not right for you, you can say yes to what is.

* I stands for Isolated, which is what singles become if they are not careful.

It takes, energy, planning, and courage to get out there, over and over, and meet people. It feels easier to stay home with the dog, watching TV, than to go out and have to talk to others. No one says you can’t stay home and enjoy yourself. But if you want a mate…you have to date. If you want to date, you have to develop your friendly factor, get out, go places, and network.

* N is for Negative.

No one wants to be around negativity. Listen carefully to your words; pay attention to your thought; examine your beliefs. Stay focussed on being cheerful, positive, and what is right with you.

* G is for Growth.

Stagnation is very unattractive. Personal growth, insight, and learning from the lessons life has delivered is what carries us into our new relationships of meaning and depth. Seek those who can teach you and open new windows into your inner self.

These seven warning signs tell you if you will be alone the rest of your life. If you don’t want to be, heed these signs and change your course…which can change your destiny. Someone is out there for you.

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Jun
30

Divorce in the UK

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Life events are common to many people’s experience. Becoming a parent, shifting house or getting married – these are all turning points in one’s life. Sometimes we are aware of these events and are able to design a suitable plan. Sometimes things happen unexpectedly and we find it difficult to cope up with these uncertainties. One such case is seeking divorce. The conventional nuclear family is already a thing of the past: the challenge for 2020 is dealing with the results of its disappearance.

The recent period of revolutionary upheaval will bed down into social acceptability. The stigma that used to surround divorce and illegitimacy will be a subject only for the history books. In the past 30 years, the rate of divorce has doubled in United Kingdom and half of all children now experience their parents′ divorce before they are 16. There have been 20 years of dramatic change and the diversity of family structures is much greater. The proportion of single-parent families will probably continue to bob around 20%, but there will probably be more step families in the future.

All four trends viz., cohabitation, divorce, births outside marriage and single parents are likely to be even more pronounced by 2020. There is no evidence that any of them are easing. Much has been made of the fact that the divorce rate appears to have reached a stage. Britain has the highest divorce rate in Europe - but it is still rising in first marriages.

The most marked characteristic of families since the 1960s has been that the traditional conception of the British family has disintegrated. The married couple with 2 to 4 children is disappearing. The sequence of life events - marriage, sex and children - has been radically reordered. Marriage rarely comes first and increasingly does not happen at all. Over the past 30 years, levels of cohabitation have trebled, the number of babies born outside marriage has quintupled, and the number of single-parent families has trebled.

Notwithstanding, the diversity of family forms will be striking by 2020. Children living with both their biological parents in the same household will be in the minority. There will be dozens of different types of co-parenting arrangements, with combinations of step families, or adults with children from previous relationships entering long-term relationships with others in the same position but choosing not to live together.

It is important to understand that a successful marriage is not the result of falling in love and craving for affection. It is the result of commitment, acceptance, willingness to change the attitude, adjust and also the ability to handle differences.

If couples fail to maintain these, marriage life turns out to be a doom for them. With all these pitfalls in married life, several couples, due to lack of attachment or affection with their spouse, tend to seek divorce so as to lead a peaceful life without problems. It is for those couples, who are in search of solution; a glimpse of the process of divorce is mentioned in this piece.

The process to get divorce has become much easier when compared to earlier days. Where a couple agrees that the marriage is over, the divorce procedure is a straightforward process. It is often the arrangements for children and asset on divorce where the parties will apply for a court order to resolve their disputes. To get divorced in England one must be able to show that he or she has been married for at least one year and that the marriage has irreversibly broken down.

A breakdown in a divorce does not necessarily have to lead to divorce yet this route could have a dramatic effect on the spouses’ relationship with their children as well as their personal finances. An alternative to divorce is judicial separation and this would slow down the process and allow mediation to reduce the conflict. In certain situations it may be possible to apply for nullity of a marriage.

There are three parts of the divorce process starting with a legal procedure to end the marriage, secondly arrangements for any children of the marriage and thirdly ancillary relief proceedings that will decide the financial matters between the couple and as the step by step guide shows is a separate process to the divorce proceedings. The largest asset on divorce is usually the property and different orders can be applied to the matrimonial home the court depending on the circumstances of the parties. The whole process may take 3 to 6 months.

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A bachelor party in Leeds will keep you rocking all night long

Leeds is a great place for a stag weekend. New bars and clubs are cropping up overnight as this city’s party potential continues to grow at breakneck speed – with no signs of stopping. It’s impossible to sober up with a bar everywhere you look so don’t come here if you plan to take a break. Leeds won’t let you!

Perfect for stellar stag nights, Leeds is a one-stop destination for all your stag weekend and bachelor party requirements. Tons of people choose Leeds as a way to have a great time without the hefty price tag other places try to get away with.

If you haven’t already heard, Leeds is the place to be if you need to practice your PhD in partying, so to speak. Trendier as the days fly by, Leeds stag nights are sure to fire you and the boys up and keep you going all night long.

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Great music, fashionable people, jumping clubs, cool restaurants and a large student population keep Leeds pumping to the party pulse – without missing a beat. Reach every hopping location by foot and you’ll see why Leeds is so popular.

Known for wicked DJs and clubs, take in a massive load of modern culture and dance the night into oblivion. Visit the Corn Exchange area to drink in the local pub scene and see what modern Leeds has to offer the, uh – discerning – drinker. A colourful collection of locals won’t let you leave Leeds feeling disappointed and you and your mates won’t have trouble mixing in with Leeds’ diverse crowd of people.

Leeds is the mother of all party centres but there are plenty of daytime activities to keep you entertained: try raft building, sailing, motor and field sports. Then you can head on back to the city-centre for some more partying – if you have the manly stamina required for the feat (which you do of course!). You’re friends will have to drag you back home kicking and screaming.

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Jun
30

Review Of Match

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The online dating website Match.com is quite popular with singles these days. From their commercials featuring Dr. Phil to their large community of members, one is sure to be familiar with the name of this website. One will find that there are numerous reasons that Match.com is as popular as it is.

Free for Individuals to Browse and Create Profiles

In today’s world, there is often a cost associated with everything. This is not the case with Match.com. Those individuals who choose Match.com as their dating website of choice will be pleased to know that they are able to not only initially browse other potential mates for free but they can set up a profile free of charge as well. Additional services will cost a reasonable fee.

Offer Searching and Matching Options

One who uses Match.com will have access to finding other singles by various means. One can use the search engines where they can specify what traits they are looking for in a potential mate as well as desired age, location, etc. With regard to the matching options, one can have their profiles matched by the staff at Match.com with other potential mates. Match.com also features MatchWords which allows individuals to enter in desired words which specify the type of person they are looking for such as humor, intelligent or sports fan.

Extremely Popular Website

It is also good to know that Match.com is a highly utilized dating website. So many individuals register with Match.com on a monthly basis that one’s options are quite large when it comes to the member pool.

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If it’s your turn to give a wedding shower and you are wondering how you will ever pull it off, do not fear, wedding shower help is here!

It can be so much fun to plan a wedding shower and it does not need to be difficult or super time-consuming.

Some of the best ideas for throwing a wedding shower may be found online. Not only do online sites have great ideas, they also have almost everything you could need to pull the wedding shower off. When you look online you will be able to find a theme and order plates, cups, napkins, favors and anything else you could need to make the wedding shower a success.

You can also plan a wedding shower by going to a party store. Party stores will have great coordinating wedding shower items. You can almost make it a one-stop wedding shower!

If you are creative you may want to design the wedding shower yourself. Look for ideas in wedding shower books at a bookstore or library and get going. Choose a color theme and plan the entire wedding shower around that color. You could use a garden theme idea or maybe a bride and groom theme. Coordinate your invitations and decorations around the theme. Just make sure you start the wedding shower planning early enough so you can get everything done.

Maybe the thought of planning and giving the whole wedding shower is too much for you. If this is the case you can still succeed. Enlist the help of a friend or family member or use the services of a party planner. Either option will take some of the wedding shower responsibilities from you and spread them around a little.

If food preparation is a dreaded part of the wedding shower planning you can turn this part of the shower over to someone else. Have the food for the wedding shower catered or ask some of the people attending the shower to bring the food. You can also keep the food for the wedding shower very simple. Order a cake and a fruit plate and put out dishes of mints and nuts. Brew a big pot of coffee, make some tea or punch and you are done!

Giving a wedding shower need not be cause for alarm. You can give a beautiful wedding shower that is simple or you can ask for a little help from others.

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Jun
29

Sexual Function & Impotence

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A healthy sexual relationship breeds a healthy conjugal life. Unfulfilled sexual desires often leads to the break-up of many intimate relationship and results in heartbreak and pain. Sexual dysfunction of any form is often a result of a complex mix of psychological and physical incompetence. Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is one of the most prevalent forms of sexual dysfunction suffered by millions of men worldwide.

Erection is a natural process which occurs after a chain of events. The first event in this chain is psychosexual stimulation. This is promoted by the male sex drive, also known as libido. The mind then sends impulses down the nerve pathways to the penis. These nerve impulses relax the smooth muscles of the arteries which supply the penis with blood. This muscle relaxation leads to engorgement and erection of the penis. After orgasm, the blood is returned to the general circulation and the penis returns to a soft state.

As men age, it results in the slowing down of many physical functions. These changes may be caused by a decreased production of testosterone, decreased blood flow or other diseases that are more common in men of old age.

Diabetes, a very common disease of our time can also interfere with erections in a number of ways, and erectile problems tend to get worse if it’s present for a longer period in a man. Men with diabetes often experience decreased quality or number of erections. Healthy blood vessels are needed for the engorgement of penile tissue that leads to erection.

ED can be caused by hypertension as well. It can affect erections either by the changes it causes in the blood vessels, or by the medications used for its treatment. Hypertension causes the arteries to lose their elasticity, and they therefore cannot accommodate the onrush of blood needed for erection. Hypertension may affect the veins, allowing the blood that does rush into the penis to exit just as quickly.

Habits such as smoking, heavy alcohol use and recreational drug abuse may inhibit erectile function. The effects may be temporary or permanent. Temporary erectile dysfunction may occur as a result of intake of large amounts of alcohol. Permanent effects may occur from the effects of smoking on the blood vessels or alcohol on the nerves. Substances added to recreational drugs may damage both the vessels and nerves.

Depression, a modern disease, can also hamper your sexual prowess. It may lead to erectile dysfunction due to a loss of sex drive, or by the medications used for its treatment. Problems with premature ejaculation and the anxiety associated with it may lead to erectile problems.

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You’re at a networking event or in a business meeting and an attractive person walks into the room. You feel your pulse racing and something starts to stir in the middle part of your body. Not to worry, it’s not your lunch coming back up. You’re feeling the vibe – the “I want to bag you” vibe.

It’s difficult to turn a business contact into a date. You met over very business-like circumstances and you could ruin a possible joint venture, partnership or alliance if you make the wrong move. A contract may not be signed if you ask for a date and the person just isn’t interested.

To avoid ruining a business relationship with an ill-timed request for something on the wild side, follow these six winning tips to turn a business contact into a date.

Listen for clues about their marital status. When you’re at a networking event or when you sit in a meeting, the person chatting will always give clues as to whether they’re married, attached or single. Often, the person will say “My wife and I….,” or “My husband thinks….” You could avoid embarrassment by taking the time to listen for these not-so-subtle clues.

Explain your intention for meeting up without sounding like a jock or jockette. At a networking event or in a business meeting, you should always have your professional hat on. Don’t say, “I think you’re hot. Let’s hook up for a drink.” Instead, tell the person that you find them interesting and you’d like to talk more at another time. By saying the word “interesting,” the person will see your request as harmless since it could just mean that you want to learn more about his or her business.

Suggest meeting up for coffee. Ask for the business card and explain that you would like to follow-up. Then arrange a meeting over a low-pressure drink. Don’t schedule your first encounter over lunch or dinner. Because of how long it takes to consume a hot plate of food, if the person turns out to be boring, you’re stuck wasting away precious time. On top of that, meeting over lunch or dinner can turn out to be expensive, especially if the person has a healthy appetite. Opt for coffee instead because by the time you finish your cup of brew, you may decide to end the meeting there or make an appointment for a future get-together.

Keep the paws off. When you meet for the first time over coffee, you still have no idea if your feelings of attraction will be reciprocated. Avoid becoming touchy feely after the handshake. Instead, keep everything professional and treat the person as a business contact.

Ease your way into personal questions. Remember, you’re still trying to find out if the person is even attracted to you. Keep your questions professional, opting to ask about business goals instead of sexual conquests. A rule of thumb is to ask 1 personal question for every 3 professional ones. If you’ve asked the person about their business goals for the current year, who their target audience is and whether they’re going to expand, you now have permission to ask a personal question. Your personal questions should revolve around these issues:

Where he or she grew up

What’s his or her favourite movie

What type of music he or she listens to

What is his or her parent’s nationality

What books is he or she currently reading

What is his or her favorite spot in the world

Ask for the date. After following steps 1 to 5, if you’re feeling the vibe, ask for what you want – a real date. If the person says, “Yes,” you’ve scored big time. It means that your gal-dar or guy-dar is bang on. If the person says, “No,” take the rejection in stride. Just tell the person that you misinterpreted their feelings and put your professional hat back on. Shake hands and tell the person it was nice getting acquainted. Then, go home and cry.

Just because you met the person at a networking event or in a business meeting, doesn’t mean you turn off your attraction radar and become a eunuch or a monk. Instead, follow the tips above and you’ll have more success of turning your business contact into a date, and less chance of getting rejected for crossing the line.

Leesa Barnes, The Schmooze Coach, helps consultants, virtual assistants, professional organizers, coaches and solopreneurs avoid cold calling by developing a fearless networking plan. Leesa is author of “Schmooze Your Way to Success: 9 Fearless Networking Tips for the Shy, Timid, Introverted & Just Plain Clueless.” Go to schmoozeyourwaytosuccess.com/ecourse.html schmoozeyourwaytosuccess.com/ecourse.html and sign up for her free 8-lesson ecourse called “From Clueless to Fearless: Secrets from the Schmooze Coach.”

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A bond (relationship wise) is when two people have a connection. Being attracted to each other and sharing common values and interests brought the two of you together as a couple, but the bond has not been set completely. Besides the fact that you have love and care between you, you also need to see whether or not the two of you are friends. Is it possible to be friends? Absolutely! As a matter of fact, it is a must if the two of you are going to build a lasting bond.

Having a strong longing and passion for another is important, but is not enough fuel to keep the bond running. With friendship, your relationship will remain having that strength under all kinds of circumstances. There will be times, for example, when you as a couple are not living in your most passionate times. This is natural and does not mean there is no longer love or desire. As your relationship deepens, you will go through many experiences and stages that may put your romance and frequent hot sex aside for a while. This is where friendship comes in and why it is so important. You should be there for each other and understand your partner’s situations and concerns. Just take a look at your friends. See what makes your friendship with them so great. You then need to see if your partner has those same similarities or exact (sticking up for you when you need the back up for instance) qualities. Another point to keep in mind is keeping yourself aware of what behavior you would not except from a friend. You should definitely not accept those behaviors from your mate (like standing you up all the time) either.

It is not easy to put our friends and lovers in the same comparison because we are in love with our partners, and therefore will be more patient with them than we would with our friends. You can easily blind yourself due to the love you feel for that person and not even realize when he or she is not being a good friend and partner to you. How can you tell? A true friendship is basically the same as the true qualities that define real love. The difference is, we are in love and have a deep desire for our mates, with commitment and a goal of building a future, and perhaps even getting married and making a family together. The list below will help you see if your lover is a friend to you as well.

You can talk to and confide in each other about anything.

Your partner is there for you when you need to talk to someone.

Being able to always rely on each other when one is counted on.

Having a permanent shoulder to cry on when we need it

Having many things in common

Accepting one another for who we are

Listening to us and considering our opinions important

Do not feel guilty for having higher expectations from your lover either. People often feel like they should be more lenient and understanding when it comes to their lovers. Even though it is important to keep an understanding attitude (to avoid misunderstandings and arguments), you should never let things always slide or make up excuses for your partner’s wrong doings. You should expect better and not except such behavior. You deserve better. After all, you invest most of your emotions and time into your partner, so always remember that you are entitled to receive the same.

As important as having that great friendship is, it is also good to remember not to let the friendship get out hand. Is it possible to let a friendship get carried away? Yes, in a relationship it is. It is wonderful when you can be best friends with your partner, but sometimes the friendship is doing so well that it receives all the focus, while in the meantime the romance (being in love) has been neglected. If you are not careful, in time, you will start looking at each other as close buddies and no longer be that passionate couple you started as. There are points that can guide you into detecting when your romance and desire is entering the danger zone before it is too late and would be suggestible to seek professional advice on how to get things back on track.

Remembering not to forget our desires for our partner will keep the romance in the picture. If the relationship still fails to rekindle those feelings and you or your partner cannot leave that buddy mode, looking around with curiosity for others, then your relationship will need some extra help (you can get advice on how to save your relationship). What if it is difficult to have a friendship? This can be another issue, but there are ways to help you find solutions. Some couples may share the most wonderful romance and sex ever, but not really have an actual friendship. In most cases, it would not be advisable to stay in such a relationship, but there are ways you can try and still have some hope.

As long as you and your partner remember to keep the romance, love and friendship balanced, your relationship will continue to live in great health, living as long as the both of you wish it to! The decision is yours, so be good enough to yourself and your mate to make the right one. Relationships can seem confusing and hopeless at times, and they can get that way if you do not keep close watch. Stop yourself periodically to check the status of your relationship to makes sure the bond is building, as it should be. Keep in mind that with the right attention and teamwork, the two of you can build the greatest bond. Most importantly, remember that key word you just learned…BALANCE.

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Wedding Planning should be one of the most enjoyable “works” in your life. However, many couples find that it can also be the most stressful job they have even been encountered. In fact there are a lot of tips on what you should consider when you are planning your wedding. You can just find these tips in different wedding magazines. However, how should you start this planning work?

The first thing you need to do is to involve your fiance to plan the wedding with you. Most brides-to-be will have a perception that their fiances do not really want to be involved in this job. There are even tips to get your fiance involved in the wedding planning. However, most of the time this can be just because of different attitudes of the bride and the groom towards wedding.

I have a friend who is going to marry very soon. He once told me that it is not true that he does not want to be involved in wedding planning. It is just because he wants to plan it slowly, item by item and the bride thinks that he does not really care about the wedding.

You should always discuss with your fiance about your thought. As in the above example, the bride may even need to discuss with my friend about the pace of the wedding plan. Communication is always the best way to involve your fiance in the wedding planning.

After you have a mutually consensus with your fiance, you can start get into the planning stage. As what everyone will do, you should have a brainstorming with your fiance first. You should never put any of your personal preference in this stage since it may affect all your later decisions. You may want to take reference to the idea of six thinking hats by Edward de Bono so that you can make the decision making process smoother.

After the brainstorming, you should have a list of different options for your wedding. You will have different options for your wedding theme, wedding day etc. At this stage, you need to check if your checklist misses any important item. You may take reference to different wedding magazines in order to check your checklist.

When you are sure that your checklist does not miss anything, you can start discussing with your fiance of these options and spot out the options that both of you will prefer. Of course there may be different thoughts between you and your fiance. You may want a beach wedding while he may prefer a winter wedding theme. Again, the key here is discussion and communication so that you can make a proposal on the plan that both of you will agree with.

After you make your initial decisions you can start sourcing for different wedding vendors that may help for your wedding. You will need to adjust your plan from time to time. You should always discuss with your fiance for any adjustment. With all these in mind, you will probably find the wedding planning less stressful and at the same time more enjoyable.

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Love is cumulative. It’s the little things that count. Love is sacred, the key to health, happiness and success. Our relationships mean more to us than we wish to admit.

In the eyes of our lover we can find God. One might say, “If we cannot see God in the eyes of our beloved, then we will never find Him elsewhere.” Love is sacred and our obsession with relationships is justified. However, we are not really good at them—we fail, we break each other’s hearts, we hurt and become selfish. All too often, we sabotage the most precious truth of our lives. In my book, Sacred Love, I make no apologies about linking the divine miracle of life to the essence of our relationships with our beloved.

What is love but the deepest of human awakenings? It is the mark of all the great sages. Love and the depths of enlightenment are proven not beneath a tree or in some temple, but in the warmth and generosity of our relationship with our beloved. Are we here, present with them in this moment? Are we here, thankful for and humbled by the gift of their time and effort? Have our material ambitions turned us into abusive, neglectful individuals? These questions are never more vital than in the moments of sacredness, when we are cumulatively building a sustainable, divine and sacred relationship with our beloved.

Expectations kill love. Emotions destroy what the heart wants most. Delusions sabotage the soul’s deepest yearning. Love is precious but so much of what we think is healthy contradicts our deepest meaning. Ambitions, expectations, projections, desires and fear-based self-obsession in the name of spirituality can corrupt the greatest treasure of our life. Our love is sacred, our expectations are corrupted.

Universal law defines universal love. Chaos is only an experience we cannot comprehend. And comprehension is conditional on our perspective. To grow your love, to keep your honeymoon alive forever, your perspective must grow as your relationship must grow. From narrow, righteous and religious perspectives you must challenge your ideologies, icons and idols. Teachers are made to be stepped on not stopped on. Grow, and your love will thrive.

Five steps to keeping your love sacred

1. Expand your service to humanity—take more responsibility for the world, and in doing so master the ability to be still. Only in stillness, when nature calls to your inner being and silence enters your heart, can love thrive. All else is noise, expectation, emotion and abuse. Be still. Learn the art of stillness. Love without action.

2. Link your dreams. Love is not the glue that binds lovers in a relationship. Shared dreams and visions beyond goals are the true magnetism that keep couples in love forever. Individuality kills the divine and feeds the ego. Sacred is the relationship that can share the depth of ever-expanding dreams. Review your vision for your life with your partner once a year, and merge the elements you share (only a third of your dreams need be mutual).

3. Grow your love daily. The universal laws of nature reveal that love grows at the border of chaos and order, support and challenge. Do not interpret challenges as a symptom of your relationship’s failure. Grow through the challenges; welcome them as you welcome your lover’s support. Only the ego wants peace, warmth and support in isolation. Be strong in love and weak in ego. Welcome growth.

4. Romance is part of love. Happiness is being romanced and appreciated— what good is love if it has no worthy expression? But if romantic actions are empty, devoid of truth or manipulative then they can only temporarily blind people, and cannot sustain or communicate love. Only honest appreciation can cause a lover to deeply and sustainably yearn for you. The emotional, physical, mental and spiritual bonds between lovers are lubricated by appreciation. What you appreciate grows, and this is the key to the joy of lovers.

5. Love is a lifestyle. Love is cumulative. To hold love sacred your lifestyle must value love, your environment must be conducive to it, your actions, words, thoughts and feelings must mirror it. Instead of worshipping icons and idols, Gods and Goddesses, your lover becomes the mirror, a true reflection of the sacredness of life and all that creates it. Love is cumulative. It is the small things that add up to create sacred love, the daily, momentary actions. This is the key to a sacred relationship.

Sacred Love by Christopher Walker is available from Berkelouw Books, or online at sacredlovethebook.com sacredlovethebook.com and www.amazon.com—a perfect Christmas or Valentine’s gift.

chriswalker.com.au chriswalker.com.au Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris’s work and journeys to Nepal, visit chriswalker.com.au chriswalker.com.au

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