Undying Love

Thinking of getting married but deterred by the costs of a wedding that you hear vary from “a lot”, to “expensive″, to “extravagant”? Don′t worry. All is not lost. A wedding doesn′t have to be extravagant to be memorable. With a little thought, research and forward planning you can do it, even on a budget. Thinking things through now will be a great lesson you can carry into your marriage. For example, which is more important: A three thousand dollar wedding dress, or a quality bed and beautiful bedding you can have fun in for many years? Starting your marriage on the right foot, and not burdened by the debt of a large, extravagant wedding is a great blessing, and will set you in good stead for the years ahead.

As the very first step, decide what is really important to you and what may not be necessary. It’s important you work through this together. Remember you’re not just planning a wedding, you’re preparing for a marriage that will include lots of difficult decisions and financial considerations over many years. If you start discussing money here, in the wedding planning stages, then you will face the difficult financial decisions that will come along later with greater unity of mind and heart, which can only strengthen your marriage. Give and take is crucial to the survival of your marriage.

Sit down together and determine exactly what funds you have available for your wedding. Include your own savings as well as any money your parents are willing to contribute. Then use the following guidelines to determine how much to spend in each category.

40%: Reception/Caterers
10%: Wedding dress (and accents)

10%: Alcohol (includes bartender)
10%: Music (either live music or a DJ)
8%: Photo/Video crew - don’t scrimp on this, or risk your second-cousin’s-friend doing it - these are your memories. We all think we’ll remember things for ever, but memories fade with time.
7%: Flowers/Decorations
5%: Invitations/Place cards
4%: Wedding bands/Wedding hall
3%: Wedding cake
2%: Miscellaneous (favors, transportation, lodging)
1%: Groom’s tuxedo
Total equals 100% of available monies.

It sounds so romantic to be able to say you visited somewhere exotic on your honeymoon. You have many years ahead to have fun together, don’t sabotage them by starting your marriage in debt because you couldn’t do without the hugely extravagant wedding and luxury honeymoon resort that you borrowed to get. Patience brings greater rewards! There are many ways to have a fun and romantic honeymoon without getting in debt. Be creative. Or ask those whose opinion you trust for ideas.

The place where people make the biggest mistakes in planning a wedding is spending too much in some of the categories that don’t matter so much. For instance, it is nice to have a professional and elegant invitation. However, hiring a calligrapher to do it may not be the best way to spend your money. You can make your own invitations on your computer and achieve excellent results with a little effort. Craft stores sell whole kits for making wedding invitations quickly and easily.

Set up a special bank account that you can use solely for money for your wedding and add to it whenever you can. Just a little financial planning and responsibility goes a long way to an affordable, memorable wedding.

Copyright 2006 Sigi Delboda

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Most single woman seeking a committed relationship would rather avoid dating men who are likely to cheat. But according to statistics, an estimated 50 to 70 percent of men cheat on their mates. How can you tell if the man you’re dating is one of these potential cheaters? Wouldn’t it be great to have this information about him before getting too deeply involved?

Find out If He’s Prone to Infidelity

Studies reveal that some men are more likely to cheat than others because of their background, their past history, or certain character traits. Using this information, I’ve designed a 7-question quiz to help women determine whether or not a man is prone to infidelity.

Single Women Screen Dates with this Quiz

The Potential Cheaters Quiz was originally posted on my website InfidelityAdvice.com to help married women find out if their husbands are prone to infidelity. I also provided a special report with strategies to help women deal with these potential cheaters. However numerous single women began reporting how they were using the quiz to screen the men they met on dating sites, and through dating services and personal ads.

Decide Who Not to Date

The Potential Cheaters quiz can help you make an informed decision about whether or not to continue dating a man, or how deeply to get involved. By identifying and avoiding the potential cheaters in the dating pool, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary headaches and heartaches.

Rate Your Date with the Potential Cheaters Quiz

Before you fall head-over-heels in love or get too attached to the new man in your life, rate your date’s cheating potential with the 7 questions below:

Potential Cheaters Quiz

1. Does he thrive on adventure?

2. Did he have a great deal of sexual experience prior to your relationship?

3. Does he have lots of female friends?

4. Does he have male friends who are cheating on their wives or girlfriends?

5. Does he have a parent who cheated?

6. Did he cheat in any of his past relationships?

7. Does he feel that infidelity is really no big deal?

What the Answers Mean:

1. Some men enjoy all the suspense, deception and intrigue that go along with infidelity. They’ll cheat just for the “thrill of the chase.”

2. Studies reveal that men who were extremely sexually active before settling down in a committed relationship are more apt to engage in sex outside that relationship. Don’t expect a leopard to change his spots.

3. Close friendships with women are a common starting point for infidelity. Friends can quickly turn into lovers. The closer the friendship, the greater the odds that it will develop into an affair.

4. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If his friends are cheating, he’ll soon be cheating too.

5. Infidelity tends to run in families. Children of unfaithful parents are often programmed to follow in their footsteps, considering infidelity to be the norm.

6. “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” There are exceptions, but statistically speaking, if he cheated once, he’s more apt to do it again. His history will probably repeat itself.

7. If he doesn’t believe that infidelity is wrong, his behavior will reflect his beliefs.

Tips on How to Deal With a Potential Cheater

If it turns out you’re dating a potential cheater, or you’re strongly considering dating one, you need to know what to do. Even with only one yes answer on the Potential Cheaters Quiz, there’s still cause for concern. My special report, “How to Handle a Potential Cheater″, lists a number of precautions you can take. It also includes several successful strategies to use. To receive a FREE copy of this report ( a $7 value), send an e-mail to: InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “Potential Cheater Report” in the subject line.

What Kind of Cheater Is He? - Evaluate Your Results

Generally speaking, the more ‘yes’ answers, the greater the likelihood that a man will cheat. But some answers carry more weight than others, so you’ll want to take a closer look at the results.

If you answered yes to #1, #2, or #5 (but not all three), he’s a POTENTIAL CHEATER who may very well cheat on you if the opportunity presents itself. If you decide to get involved with him, you need to make it difficult for him to cheat. Familiarize yourself with the signs of infidelity, so you’ll know if he starts to stray.

If you answered yes to #3 or #4 alone, together, or in combination with #1 or #2, he’s a COMMON “GARDEN-VARIETY” CHEATER who will cheat if he feels he can do so without getting caught. Your challenge, if you insist on dating him, is to stay one step ahead of him by learning to recognize the early warning signs. If you know how to spot the signs of impending infidelity, you may be able to stop his cheating before it starts, or leave before he breaks your heart. Familiarize yourself with the 21 major categories of telltale signs.

If you answered yes to #6 alone or in combination with #1,#2, #3, #4, or #5 you’re dealing with an EXPERIENCED CHEATER who knows how to hide the obvious signs of infidelity. The most important thing to do if you’re dating this man is learn to spot the subtle signs of infidelity, because these are the signs that will inevitably give him away. Get a good infidelity reference guide, watch him like a hawk, and try not to get too deeply involved.

If you answered yes to #7 alone ( This one’s the biggie!) or in combination with any others, you’ve got a HARD-CORE, HABITUAL CHEATER on your hands who’s probably already having an affair. (You could unknowingly be the Other Woman.) For this man, cheating is a way of life. If you don’t want to become an infidelity statistic, leave this man alone. Should you decide to take on this challenge, you’re in serious trouble if you don’t know how to spot the subtle signs of infidelity. Forget about watching for the usual signs of cheating. This man is an expert at covering his tracks. The best thing you can do is become adept at spotting the subtle signs of infidelity, since there won’t be any obvious signs to give him away. The subtle signs are the ones he won’t even think to cover up. Get the best infidelity reference book you can find to help you recognize these subtle signs. Invest in a copy of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs which lists practically every known sign of infidelity ( Is-He-Cheating-On-You.com ) and keep it handy at all times.

Copyright © 2005 Ruth Houston - All rights reserved.

ABOUT THE BOOK:

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs by Ruth Houston is a comprehensive infidelity reference which lists hundreds of obvious and not-so-obvious signs of infidelity. The signs are grouped into 21 major categories so you can easily find the signs that apply to your mate. This book documents practically every known sign of infidelity.

ISBN: 0-9720553-4-7 – soft cover - $29.95
Available from InfidelityAdvice.com or 1-800-431-1579 or Amazon.com

ISBN: 0-9720553-5-5 – e-book version with 6 Special Reports and 2 Infidelity Questionnaires - $37
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Copyright © 2005 Ruth Houston - All rights reserved.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the author of Is He Cheating on You?- 829 Telltale Signs, an infidelity reference book which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Ruth’s website InfidelityAdvice.com InfidelityAdvice.com provides practical advice on all aspects of infidelity. For a FREE copy of “How to Handle a Potential Cheater”, e-mail mailto:InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “Potential Cheater Report” in the subject line.

Ruth also does personal infidelity consultations. Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Toronto Sun, the New York Post, Cosmopolitan, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, AOL Black Voices and numerous others, and has been a guest on Good Day New York, TalkAmerica, Telemundo, BBC, CBC, 1010WINS and over 150 other radio and TV talk shows in the US,Canada, Europe, South America, and the Caribbean.

These days there are nearly as many wedding themes as there are brides and grooms, and it has never been more important than it is today to choose the perfect theme for your wedding.

Hosting Your Wedding At A Beach That Is Far Away From Home

One of the most popular of all weddings these days is the beach theme wedding, and in addition there are many different variations on this interesting theme.

Whether you host your wedding at a local beach half an hour away from home or in an exotic beach resort halfway around the world, there is something about a wedding on the beach that brings to mind all kinds of excitement and adventure.

Using Publications To Help You Find Ideas

There are of course many places to start the search for the perfect beach theme wedding, and if you are like many other brides to be, chances are you have already accumulated plenty of bridal magazines, wedding planning guides and other types of publications.

These popular publications can be a great source of all kinds of information on all kinds of beach themed weddings, and you are likely to pick up some great ideas just by leafing through the articles and the advertisements in these publications.

Using The Internet To Find Ideas

In addition to these publications, there are many different kinds of beach theme wedding ideas available on the internet.

From the many commercial and personal web sites and newsgroups, to the many email lists and blogs, there are plenty of great online resources that allow those planning a wedding to meet with others in the same situation.

Just talking to other brides to be and wedding planners is often a great way to come up with some ideas for the perfect beach theme wedding. These beach weddings are all the rage these days, and the enormous popularity of weddings on the beaches of the United States, Mexico, Europe and the rest of the world is only likely to grow.

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Wedding Speeches are one of the highlights of wedding receptions. It’s usually a once in a lifetime opportunity for family and friends to wish the happy couple all the best for their future life together.

We all want to make that special speech, that everyone will always remember for the right reasons. However, many people find it difficult to be a confident public speaker. You want to deliver a truly memorable speech, but how do you do it?

You may not know how to start or where to look and it’s all too easy to let it go and before you know it, the big day has almost arrived and you have nothing prepared to say.

It doesn’t matter whether you are single, or married, or a the brother, sister or father of the happy couple… …You know that you have taken on a big responsibility, and the bride and groom are relying on you to be well prepared, so its important that you know the correct etiquette. It’s so very easy for wedding speakers to embarrass themselves and waste their time worrying, and trying to find the right words to say.

Pre Speech Preparation

Plan your speech - So that you say the right words, because if you don’t, you’ll get caught ‘winging it’ Improve your confidence - This will help in any public speaking event in the future, and you will come across as a professional speaker Deliver your speech like a professional public speaker and make a fantastic impression with the guests Always look after your appearance - First impressions count Say all the right things about the bride and groom The speech should include some relevant jokes Include heart-felt comments about times past Gain the audience’s respect, because saying the wrong thing can lose it Learn some toasts and quotes, including classic one liners - Perfect for closing your speech and adding your own personal touch Save time and money. Do not waste time writing your own speeches

Steps To Make Your Perfect Wedding Speech

Welcome the guests and introduce yourself. Include a little about how you met the bride and groom Know who to thank. Acknowledge all the people who have made the day special Use funny stories that get the audience laughing off their seats Give special acknowledgments for the bride and groom Close your speech with a toast to the future health of bride and groom

With a little time and effort, you too can have the right words, the right jokes, the right timing, to give a winning wedding speech that will completely blow away your audience!

Do you want to make that special wedding speech, that everyone will always remember for the right reasons?
On a never-ending quest to find the greatest wedding speeches ever written, Richard Reed has selected the very best advice and tips for his website: squidoo.com/BestWeddingSpeeches Best Wedding Speeches

Complaining

Do you complain about your lover to your friends? If you do more complaining
than complimenting, this is a sign things are on the decline.

Example:
“His friends never wanted to see me? I used to get along with them, but
they started hating me because he would complain to them.”

The Passion is Gone

Do you make love as often as you used to? In a relationship, there is a natural
decline in sexual relations over time, but usually when the sex takes a
significant dive, it can indicate there are deep problems in the relationship.

Example:
“Every time I approach her for sex, she always has an excuse. Usually
she said she was too tired.”

Being With Them/Without Them

How do you feel most of the time when you are with your lover? How do you feel
when you are away from them? If you find that you want to be away from your
lover more than you want to be with them, it’s time to think about moving on.

Example 1:
“My boyfriend left for the week and I’ve never felt better!”

Example 2:”
“Sometimes when we would sit on the couch and talk, I would think
nothing but ’shut the hell up!’ when he talked.”

Picking Fights

Are either of you finding reasons to fight? Fighting is normal, but if it’s on a
grand scale and usually about things that used to not even matter, chances are
the towers will come crashing down soon.

Example:
“He complained that I left the basement light on when he does it
himself.”

Long-Term Plans

Do you talk about long-term plans together? If those conversations are only
one-sided, you aren’t both really vested in the relationship.

Example:
“We were engaged but she never wanted to talk about the wedding
plans.”

Use these tips with it in mind that everybody has bad weeks or months. Things
may change or can be worked out. These tips are meant to help in identifying
long term problems. Hopefully you feel better about your relationship after
reading this article. If not, it’s time to move on.

This article was submitted by dateexperience.com DateExperience.com, a web site for people looking for dating and sex tips and advice.

When you come to choose a wedding gift it’s no wonder that marrying couples issue a wedding gift registry. It’s how to get exactly what you want; here are some true-life stories of the worst wedding gifts ever.

A person was attending their cousins wedding and had not got around to buying a present, so she stopped at a drug store on the way to the wedding and bought some shower gel and deodorant. To finish it off she wrapped the gift up in a plastic bag! Needless to say she was horrified the following morning when all the family sat round and watched the bride and groom open up their presents.

Lesson Learned

Plan ahead; buy the gift at least one month before the wedding. Never leave it to the last minute.

How about the wedding where the mother of the bride gave the happy couples an IOU. Seriously! The mother found herself short of funds as the wedding neared and thought that an IOU (on a blue post it note) would be just the thing. Needless to say six months later the mother of the bride had not even made good on her IOU, I can feel another lesson coming here…

Lesson Learned

Plan ahead, budget for your gift well in advance. Not getting the Bride and Groom a gift can be the sort of event that remains with them for a long time.

There was another occasion where the brother in law of the Groom brought a tin of paint for the happy couple. First of all a tin of paint! Now it happened that the Bride and Groom needed some paint as they had moved into a new house. However, the Bride was not keen at all on the colour and after some ‘interesting discussions’ the brother in law agreed to return the paint and provide a gift certificate instead. You guessed it - the gift certificate never arrived. And the lesson is

Lesson Learned

It is definitely not advisable to get a gift for a wedding where you could be risking a clash with personal taste.

My advice - stick to the Gift Registry.

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Lots of guys will do all kinds of things to try and have more success with women but it usually backfires or doesn’t actually help them.

Some guys will brag about their job accomplishments, status, material possessions, car, etc. But what does this do? More importantly, what kind of relationship is that and who really has the power here?

If a guy has to brag to a woman he is trying to determine more value to win her over. In this case, the relationship is one in which she has the power; she is the stimulus and he’s trying to ‘get some’ of that through any means necessary.

The simply true relationship is clear to the woman. Today’s women are very sensitive to the relational power dynamic that exists.

Ironically the way that works is the opposite of what society has taught you. The way to her heart is not to shower her with gifts and expensive meals. That is the path of courtship and with today’s independent women, they’d rather not put up with all of that social pressure.

It’s up to you to lead as a man and doing the traditional things when you just want some ‘action’ isn’t going to work. If you ‘court’ her and try to show off your value, you might be a good long-term prospect but is that the type of relationship you REALLY want with her?

Courtship is an aging social function. When you take a woman on traditional dates, she has the power and can say ‘yes’ or ‘no’. She will withhold sex to keep you around. Now, they would rather you just be upfront and honest about what you want because when you go out with them like this, you are bringing so many social powers and expectations into the game that neither of you can really be yourself.

You sit across the expensive dinner table from her knowing you’re not going to get anything but maybe a peck on the cheek if you’re lucky. You’re the guy who follows the social norms which are this great big dinosaur.

How ironic is this? Look at Sex and the City and today’s independent women yet men approach women who they just met as if they want to marry them when they really want to just sleep with them. Stop doing what doesn’t work and change your approach.

Because even if you do eventually want to marry, it’s best to let a woman get to know you for who you really are instead of playing a social courtship game with marriage expectations when you hardly know each other yet.

When you take a woman to an expensive restaurant and you give her flowers when you pick her up, you′re bringing a greater social context into play.

That focus is so strong and evident to a woman that she can’t really focus on the real you. Your intentions are too obvious you’re interested and taking the long-term approach when you probably just want to sleep with her.

It’s best just to be honest and don′t bring those scary and leveraged social expectations into play esp. if that’s not what you want in the first place.

That’s why I just keep my dates fun and open. The focus is on me and her and the experience. I don’t bring overwhelming social expectations of wanting to marry a woman I’ve just met…how on earth can you even approach women like that without getting to know them first!?

It creeps them out and lay back. Be comfortable in your own skin and set the frame of the relationship and she’ll either follow or not and you won’t have to worry about rejection either when executed properly.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don′t want to ‘act’, use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.

He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at relationaldynamics.org relationaldynamics.org

What makes Jewish dating different from any other type of dating? Jewish singles, by nature, tend to seek out other Jewish singles even if they aren’t particularly religious. There’s something about being Jewish, either genetically or as a society, that keeps Jews together as a group. Not completely, of course, as there are many Jewish people who have married outside the religion. But there still remains today, even in our enlightened, high tech society, an invisible force field surrounding the Jewish people and pressuring them to stay together. Why this is, how it all began is a mystery but it does, in fact, exist.

As a result of this religious cloistering, there are more Jewish dating services around than any other religion can lay claim to. Most dating services don’t differentiate their clients by religion and this broader group of matchmakers is by far still the largest in the country. But when it comes down to different groups of people who are only interested in meeting people of the same religion, Jewish dating is the largest.

In purely quantitative terms, the Jewish population of the world is almost negligible. There are billions of Muslims, about a billion and a half Catholics and only approximately 20 million Jews on the planet. And yet Jews remain the most influential group of people in the history of the world. Why that is and how that happened is a question for scholars and historians, but how Jewish dating has become so dominating is something that should be understood by anybody seeking to enter the dating world.

e-jewishdating.com Jewish Dating Info provides detailed information about Jewish dating services and traditions, Jewish online dating, free Jewish dating, Jewish speed dating, and more. Jewish Dating Info is the sister site of i-christiandating.com Christian Dating Web.

Congratulations on your engagement. Now it’s time to go to work and plan the wedding of your dreams. With a little preparation (and a sense of Humor!) there is no need to act like a bridezilla.

Here is a checklist to help you keep your sanity.

9-12 Months before the wedding

Announce your engagement. Plan what type of wedding you want- formal, informal, day or evening, number of guests Choose a wedding date. Determine your budget- Discuss who is responsible for what expenses before making any plans. You should include your parents and future in-laws in this discussion. Remember to treat them with respect. Any money they provide is a gift! Make guest list - Don’t forget to include your parents and future in-laws in this discussion. Speak to officiant- Priest, Minister, Rabbi, Justice of the Peace etc. Reserve your ceremony and Reception Sites.6-9 Months Before Wedding Select Bridal Gown Choose your attendants- Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, Bridesmaids, Ushers, Flowergirls, and Ring Bearer Choose a Photographer Select bridesmaids dresses & accessories (Remember to be Kind and listen to their suggestions and concerns). Select a caterer (if needed) Hire a band or DJ Book your florist4-5 Months Before Wedding Schedule fittings for yourself and attendants (don’t forget your flower-girl) Reserve any rental items needed for ceremony and reception Finalize guest list Order Stationery - wedding invitations, thank you notes, and wedding programs Address invitations or hire a professional calligrapher Plan rehearsal dinner - set date, time and location. (This dinner is usually given by the grooms′ parents.) Arrange for accommodations for out-of-town guests. Start planning honeymoon (Groom usually makes these arrangements after you BOTH decide where to go.) Don’t forget to get any passports or travel documents you may need. Register for gifts. Purchase shoes and accessories (Remember to break your shoes in before the wedding)2-3 Months Before Wedding Order wedding cake Order party favors Order all necessary decorations Book all transportation for wedding day (if necessary) Buy wedding rings Visit lawyer to write any necessary wills or prenuptial agreements 5-8 Weeks Before Wedding Purchase gifts for wedding attendants Mail invitations (A map to assist your guests in finding the ceremony and reception sites is a nice idea). Visit hairstylist to determine what style you want for your hair. (Hint: Never change haircolor or change your style right before your wedding. Any changes should be made at least 3-4 weeks in advance). Have a formal wedding portrait taken Send wedding announcements to newspapers (if necessary) Change name and address on driver’s license, social security cards, insurance policies, and bank accounts Reserve wedding attire for groom, ushers, ring bearer (Usually done by the groom). Mail invitations to rehearsal dinner (if necessary) Obtain marriage license Get blood tests if necessary in your state Plan a bridesmaid luncheon 2-4 Weeks Before Wedding Confirm ceremony details with officiant Arrange final fittings for your gown and bridesmaids dresses Make final floral selections Finalize rehearsal dinner plans Confirm details with all service providers - It is a good idea to give them a written list of your wedding day timeline. Contact guests who have not yet responded to your invitation Pick up wedding rings Meet with your photographer to discuss special photos you want taken. Meet with your DJ or band to confirm the music you want played Remind all attendants (male & female) when to pick up their wedding attire. Purchase any special accessories or make-up you want your attendants to wear. Determine ceremony seating for any special guests (give the list to the ushers). Plan reception seating-write names on place cards.Hold On….Your Almost Done! Last Week Pick up wedding attire Figure final guest count and notify cater Arrange for “get-a-way” car from the reception Review the schedule of events and last minute arrangements with all service providers. Confirm honeymoon reservations Pack for your honeymoonTake a Breath…..It’s Finally Here….Your Wedding Day!!!! Give rings to the best man and maid of honor (If no ring Bearer) Give the best man money to pay the officiant after the ceremony Relax and have fun!!! All your hard work and planning has paid off.

Jasmine Macdonald is a web designer of several wedding websites: fun.createswebsites.com fun.createswebsites.com, and windsor.weddingwindow.com windsor.weddingwindow.com.

You can visit her daily wedding blog at: funweddings.blogspot.com funweddings.blogspot.com

As men, we have been conditioned: to be the alpha male, to know what we want, to be the hunter and provider, to have the answers, to be strong, tough, and steady. Unfortunately, this kind of attitude does not leave much room for tenderness and vulnerability. It’s no wonder we have so much trouble in our relationships. It is ironic that being such a strong and decisive species, we can be very weak and indecisive when it comes to the woman we love.

Men as well as women have three powerful, dynamic forces at work inside themselves: the mind, the heart, and the soul. Figuring out whether we are truly in love with the woman we are with is difficult — we cannot always differentiate between or understand the energy from these forces.

The Mind
This computer commonly referred to as our brain is the driving force behind our behaviors. It is also the source of the voice called the Chatterbox. Depending on how we program the mind, the Chatterbox will influence perceptions, beliefs, rationalization, judgment, actions, and desires. It can be loud at times, consuming our attention and creating mental conflict and confusion.

When involved in a relationship, the Chatterbox may create three mind viruses: fears, distorted perspectives, and unrealistic expectations. The negative energy generated by these viruses causes relationship problems. It creates conditions in which we will not think clearly, trust ourselves, or distinguish between love, addiction, and infatuation.

The Heart
The heart is soft tissue that tears easily, yet is the strongest muscle in the body. It is also the second force behind many of the problems we have in relationships. When the soft tissue is dominant, we show romance, tenderness, and understanding. When the muscle is strong, we behave like body armored soldiers standing guard to protect ourselves. No wonder women find us so confusing.

We have been conditioned to focus on the strong side of the heart, denying that we want to be soft, tender, and loving. When we become involved in a relationship with a woman – letting that soft side dominate — and she hurts or disappoints us, we become reactive warriors, toughening the muscle and standing guard. After a few such instances, the denial grows stronger and the soft side becomes more difficult to access.

The Soul
The soul is the inner voice, the energy that resonates deep within ourselves and affects us in a profound way. We do not know how to listen to, or do not trust, this energy source. The soul is instinct, intuition, and subconscious. We cannot quite put a finger on it. If we allow ourselves, we can feel the vibrations of this energy.

When we become conflicted in relationships, it is often because the mind says one thing and the heart says another. We try to find a solution with the mind or react with the heart. It is confusing and painful to find ourselves caught in the middle of these two dynamic forces that send out conflicting messages.

The soul receives energy from both the mind and heart. If we can learn to listen to the inner voice, the soul can be the arbitrator between the two. We must learn to listen, hear, and trust that inner voice — it is never wrong.

Imagine you have learned how to listen to your inner voice, and you hear it tell you that you are in love with a woman. However, your mind is still chattering loudly with fears and your heart remains on guard. Read the list below and consider which of the statements apply to you. If most of them resonate powerfully with you, try to quiet your mind, relax your heart, and listen to your inner voice.

You are in love with the woman you are with when:
• You are inspired to make her smile every day
• You give her a gift and it fills you with happiness
• You look in her eyes and feel a jolt of positive energy
• You are inspired to make her feel safe and loved
• You desire and are filled with joy from her affection
• You do just about anything to take care of her
• You are inspired to be the best you can be
• You are dedicated to the success of the relationship
• You look at her and profoundly know that you are home
• You look at her and your soul is at peace

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